One of the most popular questions I get asked by everyone (and I mean everyone – even people no where near getting married or planning an event) is when to send out [insert: Save the Date/Wedding Invitation/Thank You cards]?
Simply put – the earlier the better. However life is never simple, no matter how organized you may be. In which case, you should follow the rules of etiquette listed below.
Save The Dates
Getting married locally?
You’re good to send these out six to eight months prior to your wedding date. I personally think a year in advance is always best. This allows your guests to book off any time they may need and ensures they keep the date on hold while waiting to get your beautiful invitation.
Got that travel bug?
If you’re taking the destination route, I highly recommend sending out a save the date as soon as you get your bling! Your guests are not only going to need to take time off but some may also need to budget and start saving! At minimum I would say nine to twelve months in advance.
Two – three months is your minimum especially in more popular seasons (Spring/Summer). There comes a time in everyone’s lives where it seems like everyone is getting married – take that into consideration. Letting your guests know two to three months in advance gives them enough time to pencil you in and ensure travel arrangements if they need to attend two events in one night – I’ve never had to do this but I know a few troopers who have.
If you’ve sent out a save the date, then 6 weeks (PUSHING IT) to two months in advance is also considered proper traditional etiquette.
So basically, fair game is two months for your formal invitation.
If you’re planning a destination wedding, you want to send this out as soon as possible. Anywhere between three to six months prior to is considered good etiquette! This gives everyone enough time to book their tickets!
Thank You Cards
The rulebook says that you should send out thank you cards two to three months after your wedding. Here’s where I don’t mind encouraging breaking the rules a tiny bit. Post wedding, most couples go on their honeymoon and then it’s back to the grind. Sometimes you just need time to relax and take in that you just got married! I say, within six months is nice, hey if you can pull it off in three go for it, but if you take a tiny bit longer, it’s all good.
The reason I’m a bit more laid back with this is simple; no one has to book time off. You’re doing it out of love and I strongly believe each note should be personable. So take time and thank everyone who came from near and far to celebrate your big day and do it with love, even if it takes a couple of extra days. Just don’t go over the six-month mark, because then it almost becomes old and you really don’t want to be close to your anniversary date!
Proper etiquette revolves around many things. If you’re looking for more than what this post covers, leave us a comment and we’ll be happy to answer, or might even write a post on it!