15/09/15 Blog , Wedding Vibes # , , , , , , , ,

The night before

It’s funny no one really talks about the night before your wedding. Yes, helpful aunties and millions of previous brides told me “you need your beauty sleep,” but what really happens the night before isn’t always sleep. To be honest I don’t have a word for it.

Hosting “out-of-towners” meant it was a free for all; find a mattress anywhere available and claim it before someone else does! I claimed the one in my parents’ bedroom that night. It was the last night I would be just their daughter with no other role to play in life *cue the emotions.* Also my sisters and cousins were in my room prepping Mr. Fiance’s doom (doli games) so if I wanted sleep it would have to be elsewhere.

I laid, my last night as a single woman with my mind was racing. The dialogue went something like this…

  1. OMG I should totally do a blog post about the night before the wedding (literally started mind-writing that moment onward)
  2. I have such fabulous vendors, I’m so happy I don’t feel stressed at all and I can’t wait to see them… but wait if I’m not stressed then why am I not sleeping?! Should I be stressed?! ERR…
  3. I hope Mr. Fiancé is not going to be too hungover tomorrow.
  4. I wonder what he is doing right now?
  5. What are the girls (my sisters and cousins) doing in the other room?
  6. Why is my mom not sleeping yet, she needs her beauty sleep too, where is she?!
  7. I feel like I’m missing something or someone… but who?
  8. God, I can’t wait to see all the stationery. Please tell me it turned out perfect…
  9. Wait, will I see the stationery?!! Of course I will see the stationery… it’s going to be everywhere and the wedding planner will save it for me. Right!?
  10. Ok, sleep woman why are you not sleeping???

These thoughts were circling my mind the whole night. Then my parents finally came into the room (THANK YOU for turning on all the lights – ouch). They gave me a hug, we had a quick talk and then told me to sleep!

OK so I’m ready now, no more thoughts racing just sleep…

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Nope, not yet, once my dad stopped snoring, my mom decided to for the first time in her life to join the snoring symphony. I wasn’t annoyed though. I had this odd feeling. I kept thinking I should go downstairs and sleep. So eventually after much thought I snuck out of the room, and slept on my couch alone.

Yes you read right – the couch. I’m not sure what time it was but I know it was late. My sisters came down and offered the room but I was way too comfortable. I wanted to stay here and honestly felt like coming down there all night. So they crept back upstairs while I laid comfortably.

Finally…

I’m not sure why this felt so right but I kept thinking about my grandmother who was no longer with us. I missed her a lot throughout my wedding. See, she would always sit on this couch – it was her seat and everyday routine and for some reason I just felt warm being there, thinking of her hugs. This is exactly what I had been seeking all night. No more thoughts racing through my head. I felt like she was there with me, which may sound cliche, but it’s exactly how I felt. I’m not sure if I even slept that night, but I know I woke up very relaxed, calm and ready to get married even though it was 4 am.

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17/08/15 Blog , Wedding Vibes # , , , , , , , , , ,

Married.

I’m back and I’m married!

Yes – you read right, all those months of planning, stressing, dancing and singing have come to an end. I still don’t feel like it’s over  – it all just felt like a dream; my perfect little dream. Everything was flawless – even though we had a few small bumps in the road, we smiled and just kept swimming. At the end of the day, all that mattered was that we were getting married. Screen Shot 2015-08-17 at 3.34.11 PM

That being said, I know I’ve been kind of MIA on my blog – but trust me I have not forgotten about you all. There are a lot more wedding related posts coming your way very soon. I have a lot of advice and crazy stories to share from my experience so stay tuned – the next couple of weeks will be a fun ride through memory lane!

Cheers,
Puja

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10/06/15 Blog , Design Vibes , Wedding Vibes # , , , , , , , , , ,

Bridal Diary: Designing for my wedding

You’d think designing my own stationery would be easy. I mean the base of the design is done with the invitations and I’m all about branding the event so it should be.

Funny enough I don’t think I’ve every experienced a harder client to please. I am my worst critic. I find myself always trying to be more creative and out of the box with something different that is still within budget (Mr. Fiance favorite word these days – err!!). Maybe it’s the pressure? Everyone is expecting something fabulous so I have to deliver. As invitations roll out, I feel like expectations get higher too. Which is always a blessing of a problem to have.

Part of it has to do with my clients love. I want to love my stationery as much as my clients love theirs. I swear the best feeling in the world is when someone emails/calls or even sends you a nice text message saying how blown away they are by the designs and how they can’t Screen Shot 2015-06-10 at 1.29.01 PMwait for the big day.

See that feeling right there, I did that, and there is no high comparable to that. It’s like giving someone happiness through my art. What more could a graphic designer ask for?

But when designing for myself it gets a bit difficult, no matter what I design I never know if it’s good enough. This is where my minions (aka Vibrance Designs Interns for life aka sisters) and Mr. Fiance come in. But should I trust them? What if they don’t want to hurt my feelings and it all really sucks! Haha, doubtful, they are a pretty honest bunch but the thought did cross my mind. Blame it on the bridal brain!

Oddly I also find I have similar concerns that my brides and grooms have with stationery, even when I already have the answers.

Like last night while designing my own stuff  I kept thinking  – does it all look too similar?! I literally had to walk myself through the guest experience to remember my guests are not going to see each element side by side, but rather each piece will stand out as they walk through the event; bringing it all together.

It’s strange I had to remind myself this, but I guess that is bridal brain too. I’m only human at the end of the day!

Okay I’m done my spiel. Back to designing…

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08/05/15 Trends , Wedding Vibes # , , , , , , , , , , ,

Bridal Diary: Concept Films

Last weekend Mr. Fiance and I went on a mega date! HerWe did everything we love doing in Toronto, from walking around Yorkville with Summer’s Ice Cream to biking around the Toronto Islands.  It was one of those refreshing weekends. At times I even felt like Beyonce – well mainly because we had someone follow us around town filming our every move. Okay, not creepy I promise – we shot our wedding concept film with the fabulous people over at JF2 filmsHim

This is probably one of the fastest growing trends I didn’t see coming! Who am I kidding though – doesn’t everyone want to feel like a movie star?

I’m not going to lie; at first it was a bit awkward. I’m used to cameras, but, to just be me and showcase my love for Mr. Fiance  – hmm tequila, please. I love him, but I never thought I would have to film my affection.

As the day progressed we became more and more comfortable with the idea (blame it on the Goose?!). A lot of this had to do with our videographer, Joseph! He’s a gem and had us doing some crazy things but like I always say – anything for the shot!

We allowed him to be creative and just direct us. I think by day 2, we were just about ready for Bollywood – hey I mean as long as Joseph is directing. Jokes aside, it was an amazing experience! We can’t wait to see everything come together and what this creative genius will do with these fun shots.

Oh and that’s not all – we always love giving you a little something extra at Vibrance Designs so this week please welcome our fabulous guest blogger – Joesph and find out his side of the story…

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My inspiration to create – my father

Video is my preferred visual medium of choice because it allows me to document movement in more than just one frame.

Portrait {Films} for me are what extreme sports are to a performance athlete – exhilarating, high-energy and doing what I love and know best.

When I met Puja and Sumit in person, one of the first things we agreed on was producing something different and pushing all creative ideas as far as we could with purpose. Portrait {films} are my take on exploring my couples dynamic through video. 

Before I get to filming with my couples we go over a list of potential ideas, locations, themes, outfits, prop ideas, experiences they’ve both had and everything central to why they want to create this body of work. My creative films all serve a purpose; each shot is carefully composed & never documented without a reason. 

Both Puja and Sumit made it very clear that they wanted this film to embody their personalities and foreshadow specific moments during their relationship i.e. Sumit’s proposal to Puja, locations they frequented on date nights and how they felt about each other. Documenting emotions and in particular “love” can feel and become very cliché as I go from one couple to the next. It’s when I dig deep into conversations with my couples and find out what their favourite song is or what they majored in during University or what makes them happy or sad – this changes everything. Understanding my subjects translates well and yields a better result to a finished portrait {film}.

Months later after we exchanged numerous phone conversations and a plethora of emails, it was time for day 1 and 2 of filming. Working with a creative from the wedding industry felt daunting at first but Puja made that feeling disappear quite instantly. Puja and Sumit spoiled me silly & made me feel super comfortable over our 2 days together. The large benefit of working alongside a creative is that they understand the time and efforts spent in creating a vision and finally being able to execute it – perfectly. Every location that we chose was relevant and significant during our shoot and while most people don’t ever see it at first, every frame of my films are carefully thought out from the second I hit record on my camera, down to when bring everything into post production. 

My work and approach isn’t for everyone but at the heart of these Portrait {films} remains one constant – exploring and uncovering a dynamic between my clients that most family, friends or guests at a wedding reception don’t see at first. 

~ Joseph A. Fernando, JF2 Films

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11/03/15 Blog , Wedding Vibes # , , , , , ,

Off to print we go!

I did it, hit send, the invites are officially off to print. unnamedWow, even just typing that gave me the butterflies. Not the fun kind where there are little hearts roaming around your head and all of a sudden Shah Rukh Khan comes out playing the violin. This is more like the one where your hands start to shake and you’re constantly praying even if you’re an atheist.

At Vibrance Designs we never send anything to print without final sign off from our couples. This time I’m the couple. I have been cross-checking like crazy and probably driving my minions (aka sisters) insane.
Mr. Fiancé and I are both happy with the invitation. Every piece of it makes us excited for the wedding. The in-laws and my family can’t wait to hold it in their hands!
I’m always a little excited sending stationery to print and seeing the final result. I trust my team and the tools they use; they have never let me down! In fact, they always make my designs come to life.

I’m really proud of this invitation.
I’m excited to share it.
I trust and know my print team will make it flawless.

So why am I so nervous having this baby go to print?

Maybe because it’s real?
Maybe because it sets things in stone?
Maybe because it makes a statement about our event that I can’t take back?
Or maybe it’s because I don’t want to let anyone down and meet everyone’s expectations?!

Who knows…

Whatever the case may be, they are in print-production now. Wish me luck! xo

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04/03/15 Blog , Wedding Vibes # , , , , ,

Wedding Planner Please!

This post is from one bride to another.  I’m hiring a wedding planner for our day of coordination. Many people think because I’m in the industry I don’t need a planner.

Very wrong.

See I may not need a “full planning package” because I work with many vendors on a daily basis and know what styles suit our wedding; but at the end of the day I’m just a girl getting married who wants everything to be flawless.  I want an unforgettable, fun, stress-free experience. I don’t mind the stress leading up; but a month or two before the wedding day  – my family, fiancé and I should just be having fun!

We recently met our wedding planner and even with just day of coordination, (which is more than a day – seriously) we felt instant relief. All of a sudden, I am super excited and giddy for our big day! I never felt this way before. It’s not that I wasn’t excited till now – but with that excitement I always felt a bit of anxiety, just praying everything goes perfectly and hoping not to forget any details. First of all, I felt like I found a long lost friend, it was so easy to talk to her and for her to understand everything we want for our wedding. We have nothing to worry about now; even those tiny details are all going to be taken care of. It was more so the vibes she gave us than anything else that made us insScreen Shot 2015-03-03 at 9.27.44 PMtantly trust her. That feeling of having someone to take care of all that stress is unbelievable. I felt like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders and I wasn’t even that stressed to begin with.

One piece of advice almost everyone gave me was to hire a planner, this was especially stressed by my friends who didn’t. I’m so happy with our decision and honestly have never felt more excited about getting married now that I know I have a fabulous team by my side. This is a feeling every bride should feel.

My advice on picking a planner:

  1. Make sure you get along with them – they should give you good vibes only and literally peel the stress around wedding planning away from you.
  2. Ensure the package is exactly what you need. Many people offer many different services and all packages vary. Shop around and make sure you get a package that suits your wedding style.
  3. It’s like hiring your own wedding superhero – who wouldn’t want that? (ok that’s not really “advice” but that’s how it feels!)
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